Mon 11 Apr 2005
What perfect marriage looks like
Posted by Kym under Kids and Hubby
Last night I put the question to my husband: What would the perfect marriage with me look like – what would you like to improve?” I know in his mind every time I ask a question like that he rolls his eyes and curses my every x chromosome. But these questions do make him think. And you know, making him stop and think is a good thing.
He was silent for a few minutes while I saw the gears turning in his head. I was greatly anticipating the answers. I thought for sure I’d hear “I wish you lavished more praise on me”. “I wish you weren’t as critical”. “I wish we had a couple million in the bank so I didn’t have to work and could spend more free time with you”. “I wish you gave me daily blow jobs. ” I at the least expected that last one.
His answer?
I guess I’d like to get another dog like Sanibel.
So tell me, should I be upset that his reply reflected no real emotional depth or be happy that all I have to do to make our marriage perfect his buy him a puppy?
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April 11th, 2005 at 8:57 am
Very unshockingly I’m going to say be happy and get the dog.
He’s happy with you, and he wants a pet. Which, let’s face it, helps the human emotional balance quite a bit. If that’s all he wants for happiness, I say, have at it.
April 11th, 2005 at 9:53 am
Very Cute Site!
April 11th, 2005 at 11:26 am
Sounds like all of his emotional needs are taken care of, and he really isn’t all that concerned with the superficial.
If all he needs is a puppy…you’re in good shape IMO.
April 11th, 2005 at 11:31 am
Forget about emotional depth! You received a good answer! It didn’t make you angry OR feel fat. Your husband knows exactly what he’s doing! Heh.
April 11th, 2005 at 11:45 am
yeah I gotta agree with everyone. You’re doing something right if all he wants is another dog.
April 11th, 2005 at 1:43 pm
At least he didn’t want another kid.
A puppy is so doable. Ha! If you get him a puppy then he has no claim to complain about your relationship *ever* again. “What are you talking about? I *got* you the puppy!”
April 11th, 2005 at 2:03 pm
Happy! Happy that all it will take is another dog. Definitely.
April 11th, 2005 at 5:21 pm
Be happy!
April 12th, 2005 at 2:26 am
I almost fell off my chair laughing. I hate asking questions like that. I’m always waiting for the cartoon anvil to drop on my head. another dog…. good answer. Imagine how most people would feel if the only thing missing was another dog.
April 12th, 2005 at 7:54 am
Oh please go to the pound. You can call around and find the breed you are looking for — and a puppy or young one at that! Saving a dog brings you so much joy!!! More joy than I ever expected.
It’s definitely a good sign. Take Dr. Phil’s relationship test at http://www.drphil.com/advice/advice.jhtml?contentId=rel_relhealthprofiletest.xml§ion=Relationships/Sex&subsection=Marriage
Open two windows and then compare your answers. That will give you a good indication of the health of your marriage! I scored a 2, my husband scored a 4
April 12th, 2005 at 9:34 am
I think that you should be happy about the “dog” answer. Obviously you must be doing something right or because hubby has the opportunity to share what he believes could make a better marriage for both of you.
If it’s a dog - that’s easy!
April 12th, 2005 at 11:03 am
I think it’s freaky that I also have a dog named Sanibel. But my wife didn’t recently ask me this question… so am I reading my wife’s blog from a time warp or something?
(Also, my wife would probably prefer the daily blow jobs to another Sanibel)
September 15th, 2005 at 6:00 am
Hi
Enjoyed reading your blog and your 100 things about me….I like entj’s. I am an enfp —- I suppose I am writing to you because I am close to several entj’s and one of them I know I love. But here is the thing….the reticence to show emotion. You are only entj that I have come across who is married and seems happy with it. I cannot figure out why so many entjs will not commit or even engage in love….they seem to fall in love and to be sentimental in thier attractions but geesh — they are so waded up sometimes that I am tempeted to grab them in public and kiss them — just to make them shiver and fall over from lack of control!!!! But I do adore one of them. Just adore him…